Parents


Parents, what are your prom plans?

Talk with your kids about your expectations, rules for the big night

So, your son or daughter is headed to the prom.  They’ve chosen their outfit, ordered flowers and decided on the perfect restaurant where they’ll have dinner with their date. They’ve lined out all their plans and are ready for the big night.

Are you? Whether you know it or not, you’re the biggest influence on your teen when it comes to making healthy choices. If you haven’t done it already, one of the most important steps you can take to help ensure a safe prom night is to talk with your kids about their plans and share your expectations of them.

As part of this important conversation:

  • Talk about your family’s rules, including curfew, and your desire for them to have fun and be safe.
  • Talk with your teen about their plans before and after the prom – the pre-functions and after-parties can be risky for kids.
  • Be clear about a no-tolerance policy on alcohol use, not attending a party where alcohol will be served and that you will not host a party where alcohol is served.
  • Develop a plan with your teen for who they can call for a ride home, with no questions asked, if they find themselves in a situation where alcohol is being served or they feel unsafe. Click here for more information about drinking and driving and prom.

Before your son escorts his date out the door, or your daughter steps into the limo, tell them you love and care about them. And remind them you have confidence in their character and ability to make good decisions.

Conversations with your teen before the prom are important, but you can also show your love and support – and reiterate your family’s rules – during the evening. Visit the “Text your kid!” page on this website to send your teen a message on the big night.

Plan a perfect – and safe – party

So, you’re adventurous enough to open your home for a prom party. It’ll be lively, with kids bringing all the energy the big night generates. For more information on ways to ensure a party will be fun, safe, and free of alcohol and other drugs click here.

Know Oregon’s Alcohol Laws

It’s illegal to host teen parties where alcohol is served. Click here for more information about laws around teens and alcohol.

Did you know?

Most teens say their parents are the No. 1 influence on their decision about alcohol.

The majority of kids who drink say they get their alcohol from parents, guardians or other adults.

Scientific research has found that regular alcohol use can harm the young, developing brain.